Thursday, October 5, 2017

It’s been about three months since I posted anything relating to medical issues with our kids.  Can it be?  Has it really been that long? Doesn’t seem possible, does it??
Well, we’re all hanging in there and nothing major has occurred.  Summer went by quickly and now we’re back in the swing of the school routine.  Jonah is back to getting speech therapy three times a week as well as assistance with certain tasks related to speech and language comprehension.  This is good and will hopefully continue to reinforce his need for ongoing articulation practice with his sounds.  Later next week, he will see the Speech Doctor, who will conduct a few tests and perform a nasal endoscopy to assess his velopharyngeal insufficiency.  BIG WORDS!  But it will basically help us determine if he needs further corrective surgery, as well as help create a platform for which to request from the insurance company that we not have an annual cap on therapy sessions.


As you may recall, in early July, I posted that we had a follow-up appointment with a surgeon we were considering taking over Rees’ care after the retirement of our previous surgeon.  The result of that appointment led us to consider what other options we might have or if there even were any.  In early August, we sent out a mass communication to various plastic surgeons and craniofacial clinics across the USA.  As I had said in a previous post, we did actually receive responses from various locations/doctors.  Additionally, we also found that we could request an online 2nd opinion from an expert at a very highly esteemed Children’s Hospital.  This piqued our interest so we looked into it.  We also looked into the hospital, the doctors (experts), etc … we were very impressed and excited at the thought of obtaining an opinion from a location with such experience and prestigious accolades.  In order to request an “opinion”, we had to pay $650 up front!  YIKES!  We were hesitant at first but based on the information that we had and our desire for a particular doctor’s opinion, we went for it.  The process is initiated by a Third Party and we had to complete a questionnaire to initiate the process.  We provided very detailed information regarding Rees and all that he has been through, including more than a dozen photos to back up the information that we provided.  During the initial contact with the Third Party (that was actually a Staff Physician who contracts with said Third Party), we were SO IMPRESSED with the information they provided, the care and concern they showed for Rees and all that he had been through, the way that they went over EVERY DETAIL we shared with them and even asked questions to ensure they understood.  We thought, “WOW!  If the doctor who provides the ‘opinion’ is this attentive and detailed, we will be in excellent hands!”
Now, I’m sure I don’t have to tell you … if you are a consistent reader of these posts, you can easily determine that Rees has a VERY LARGE medical file.  The Third Party takes on the task of collecting ALL medical records, including diagnostic imaging, and then sorts through it to create a file that includes Clinic/Hospital notes, Procedure/Surgery notes, Imaging notes, Laboratory results, Pathology notes, and miscellaneous information.  They take it even a step further and bookmark pertinent documents and pieces of information that would be necessary for the “Expert” to generate his/her opinion.  THIS INFORMATION IS INVALUABLE AND WORTH EVERY ONE OF THOSE $650!!!  Thankfully!!
Unfortunately, the “expert opinion” was not of the same quality.  Truly, we were very disappointed to find that the doctor who we thought was going to be our next “GO-TO” … likely will NOT be.  Here’s why: 1) Rees’ given diagnosis that we have up to this point was not defined and explained as we were told it would be.  Rather, a generic, most likely scripted and very short two sentences was provided.  It was very impersonal as it did not seem to even relate to Rees’ condition.  2) Specific responses to our specific questions were evaded; we did not actually get any concrete answers.  3) This doctor seemed to suggest that Rees’ situation has not been the result of the diagnosis we were given, which is fine in itself, however, there was not substantial or corroborative information to support this statement.  4) The responses seemed to suggest that the doctor did NOT review ALL of the information that was presented.   There’s nothing I’d like more than to pick up the phone and call our former surgeon and say, “hey, what do you think of this?” … but that doesn’t seem very appropriate for me to do.  I mean, he DID retire after all … I probably should let him, right?
Now, all that being said, it was not a total loss.  As I said, the administrative portion of this process was absolutely outstanding so, to make use of the work that was done, I printed out the documents that were compiled and sorted them into a binder in the same way that they were organized for the “Expert”.  I even printed screen-snips of several of the CT images. 


I’ve begun going through the documents, highlighting terms I’m not familiar with, underlining phrases, looking things up for clarification … it’s all very interesting to me and it’s also important to me that I have the best understanding possible for what Rees does or does not need, has or does not have.  I can’t help but shake my head as through all of the documentation I re-live Rees’ medical ordeal of the last year.

Another very interesting discovery related to this process is that in order to receive the “2nd Opinion” from the “Expert”, we have to select a doctor who will also receive the report.  What we didn’t realize, however, is that in order for US to receive the report, the doctor whom we selected to also receive the report MUST sign a release for it first.  We were not aware of this little tidbit but wouldn’t have expected it to be a problem.  Since our former surgeon was no longer available, we listed the doctor who we saw for Rees’ last surgical follow-up.  However, this doctor REFUSED to provide his signature to receive the copy of the “2nd Opinion”.  Well, … THAT WAS DISAPPOINTING!!!  We were still able to obtain the report after providing the information for our family doctor who was quite willing to sign for the report.  With this in mind, it was revealing for us to find within the medical documentation the notes that the REFUSING surgeon had dictated at the follow-up visit we had with him. 
ONE THING I HAVE LEARNED TO BE TRUE, based on the documented notes from the various doctors involved with Rees’ care, … they do not tell you EVERYTHING that ends up in their dictations.  
One of the main reasons we pursued looking for other doctors was because during that surgical follow-up appointment, while the surgeon was very friendly, knowledgeable, and experienced, we felt that he was not completely comfortable with the next steps for Rees.  We understood that his scope of care was limited.  Instead of having three different surgeons complete three different surgeries, we prefer to have one doctor capable of handling as much as possible.  Now, we have found from his notes that he is concerned about the viability of the procedure that he touted as the one he has performed numerous times and as being the best route for constructing a nose for Rees.
What we do agree with that was noted in the “expert opinion” and previously understood from our former surgeon and the follow-up surgeon, as well as a kind and informative email response from one of the craniofacial centers that responded to our inquiries is that … Rees needs to heal.  His body needs time to recover and replenish after all that he’s been through.  It will likely be a year from his surgery this past May before he has another surgery and, at that point, it might only be to remove the hardware holding his skull together. 
We are uncertain of the next steps and the words of our former surgeon echo in my mind, ...“he may never have a nose like you and I do.”  But I do know that what Rees needs, … the best that we can do for him … is to be patient, to be diligent in our advocacy for him, and to continue to be his loving, caring, compassionate, eyes-wide-open family.  Sometimes, that is super easy in theory … I’m his Mama and I love him and I don’t even see what makes others gasp.
But sometimes this is difficult to accept as other words and expressions continue to accumulate and linger in my mind …
… the little boy in the post office who says, “Mommy, look at that boy!  He has a funny nose!”
… the teenage boy who took out his phone, continuing to make obvious attempts at getting a photo during a school program.
… the children playing in the water nearby, their audible gasp and then look of shock, as they stare while whispering amongst themselves.
While we wait for him to heal, we have other considerations that we are pursuing.  Both he and Jonah will have a consultation with Urology next week.  Neither of them have been circumcised and due to all the surgeries that they started so quickly after arriving in the USA and their surgeon refusing to allow circumcision simultaneous to another procedure, it just wasn’t something that had priority.  However, even though this is really 'late in the game' we do feel that with all that they have going on, this is a “difference” we do not want them to have to deal with.  A couple weeks after that, Rees will have another consultation, ... with Hematology.   Due to excessive blood loss during surgical procedures and the blood reactions he has encountered on several occasions, it was noted by our former surgeon that he should be evaluated.  We think that is probably a good idea and enough time has (potentially) lapsed since his last surgery to allow us to begin looking into this.

Beyond that, in January, we will also have a “Full Craniofacial Team” consultation with a different health system.  The team there received the letter we sent out this summer and they are very eager to meet Jonah and Rees.  We are interested in hearing what they have to say (but in no way committing to receive care there until we have evaluated all our options) and how they will do their assessment, which will be done in a 4-hour appointment.  Eek!!   One of the things that intrigued us right off the bat is that their “Full Craniofacial Team” consists of two Plastic Surgeons, a Neurosurgeon, ENT, Speech and Audiology.  In discussing and scheduling this appointment, reference was made like this: “oh, I’m sure you’re used to this with all your kids where you were previously cared for …”  Uhm, … no, no we’re not.  I can tell you that in the ten years that we had care for all our dumplings, we NEVER saw our plastic surgeon with our neurosurgeon AT THE SAME TIME!  Speech was a referral and done at a completely different location.  And we never saw ENT or Audiology … EVER.  So, will this be overkill??  It will definitely be different … but not necessarily wrong … and maybe different will be good!  I guess we’ll find out.     

In the meantime, we are enjoying Fall and all that it brings.  We love pumpkins and mums and the changing leaves.  Happy Fall Y'all!!!





Tuesday, October 3, 2017

School has been under way for nearly a month now and we're now in a pretty good routine.  THANKFULLY!!!

Rees' teacher this year happens to be the same teacher that Jonah had last year.  She is AWESOME at taking pictures of the students several times a week.  And she always makes sure she gets ALL the students.  This is really not necessary and I realize that it takes an extra effort of the part of a teacher who does this ... BUT ... it IS REALLY NICE!!!

It's just great to be able to get a glimpse of our child's school day and the work he's doing.


With Project Lead The Way, they do a lot of hands-on activities.  This really seems to get the kids engaged and amplifies their interest and learning capabilities.


Each year, the elementary school holds a Walk-A-Thon.
All the classes participate!

This is Rees' 1st Grade Class.



The kids get a strand of special beads ... one for each lap they complete.


This is Jonah's 2nd Grade Class.  His teacher this year does not take all the photos like the teacher from last year but another parent took these photos ... how nice!!



Sunday, September 10, 2017

Back-To-School - 2017-2018 School Year

The first week back to school for the 2017-2018 school year is complete.  
WE MADE IT!!!
To be honest, the first week back to school is always a little tough.  No matter how much we prepare, there's still an adjustment to actually making the transition.  
BUT.WE.MADE.IT!!

All our dumplings, for the most part, had a great first week.  

Our Mollybug started 10th grade.  


I guess now that she is a sophmore in high school we're not really supposed to call her our Mollybug but ... oh well, ... it's my post ... I will if I want to!  LOL!!
Molly dove in to her first week with very full days right away ... school all day, volleyball practice/games until 8:00 - 8:30pm and then homework/studying with her bestie until 10:30 - 11:00pm.  Yikes!!  It's only the first week!!




Brynn started 6th Grade ... her first year as a Middle-School-er!!!
She actually had a really great week ... woke up excited each morning and came home in a good mood!!  This is a VERY welcome change!  I think it is going to make a tremendous difference for her and us this year with her being in her own school without an older or younger sibling being there too.  



Jonah and Rees had a pretty good week ... but I think they prefer summer vacation.  It's pretty sweet having all those days off of school but they're good boys ... they'll get back into the swing of things!


Rees is in 1st grade this year and Jonah is in 2nd grade.

It's really nice when teachers take photos during the school day ... we never had this when our big kids were in school!!


Well, here's to a great second week ... you all have a great week too, okay??







Monday, September 4, 2017

Outdoor / Camping Adventures

So, we L-O-V-E the outdoors and it's getting to be that time of year when we (well, certainly I) REALLY L-O-V-E it!!  
We try to go on a hike now and then and now is a great time to do it.  
It hasn't been too hot lately ... well, not all summer, really ... which is A-OK with me!
I think the weather we've had this summer has been great (even ALL the rain), though I know there are many who would disagree with me, especially those affected by the area flooding earlier this summer.  BUT seriously the terrible flooding we had in our southern part of the state WAS terrible, but NOTHING like what is happening in Texas these past few weeks.  

(Four little dumplings, all in a row ...)



It is so exciting to me when they are intrigued by nature!!


Of course, we have to take a few "selfies".  


And, to our benefit sometimes, the kids all enjoy taking a few photos too!



I just love all the wild things growing this time of year!






Last week we actually took a vacation!!  I think it was our first one since adopting the boys!!


Even our big boys came with us for a few of the days!  That was a HUGE treat because they have not been camping with us in about SEVEN years!  This time they actually wanted to come along ... it wasn't us making them!! CRAZY, I know!


This guy was enjoying sleeping in way past 3AM!!!


This little buddy enjoyed feeling and playing in the sand.


We had beautiful weather with even more beautiful sunsets ... awesome for photo taking!!


Sunset over Yellowstone Lake ... one of our favorite places!




One of our "must-do"'s if we are in the area is to go to New Glarus, ... it is considered to be Little Switzerland in Wisconsin.  The whole town is set in Swiss Style and is always nice to visit.  Check it out ... you know you want to!!

We decided to have lunch at Kennedy's Ice Cream Shop and they have this fun Cow you can sit on ...


Another traditional stop, which is also in New Glarus is the New Glarus Brewery.  We first went there because they are a customer of the company that Brian works for.  I was so impressed to watch the machinery in action!!  So, now, we go each time we are in the area!

Every time we go it has grown more and more.  They continue to add on and expand the area on their grounds.  It is a nice place to see and visit even if you aren't interested in BEER.
(these two photos are compliments of their website)




They have some very motivational signs in their building too!!




There are plenty of great photo spots.  I see this place becoming a great wedding photo spot!



While we were camping, we also did a lot of hiking!  
The weather was perfect for it!





Nature always provides LOTS of great photo spots!!
Isn't that just awesome of God??
It's all His beautiful canvas ... 






Another town we visited that is in the area is Shullsburg.  I definitely recommend a visit and we hope to return when we have more time!!  To me, it was a little hidden treasure that we stumbled upon and I wish it hadn't been so late in what was our last day.  
(photo courtesy of google search)

(photo courtesy of google search)

There are several lovely shops on Historic Water Street as well as places to eat, including the Shullsburg Creamery and Shop.  You can choose from a plethora of cheeses and sausages and various other treats and gifts.  There is a mining museum and historic memorial dedicated to the eight miners who lost their lives in what is considered the worst mining disaster in Wisconsin.  

And there was this little find ... that we had to quickly get to (meaning we had to forego all other options) before it closed.  This is Mary O'Leary's Cabins in rural Shullsburg (and by rural, that only means it's about 2-3 miles out from historic Water Street.


This was a great place ... right up our alley!



It's sort of like a museum, because it has so many treasures and relics of times past, but it is actually a place to shop for said items.  


Some of the items are quite pricy but ALL of the items are so lovely to look at.  



You can walk around outside the property too and enjoy the surroundings, find more treasures, and take great photos!


I understand they also have events and gatherings there, suitable for all ages!









It was a great visit and a great week away!! 
We are so thankful for the time we had together and the opportunity to relax and enjoy the outdoors as a family.

Next up: Back-to-School !!